i'm alyssa. i'm 21, born and raised in minnesota, senior at marquette university. AXO ♥. priorities: Jesus, family, friends, boyfriend. i'm a fixer, a lover, and i make bad jokes. my thumbs don't match and i'll correct your grammar. i'm sarcastic beyond belief and i like to make a good impression. feed me gummy worms, remember the little things, and cuddle with me; i think we'll get along just fine.

 

For some reason, being in Italy has made me realize just how grown up I am. That, and wine. The wine certainly hasn’t hurt.

I’m old. I’m graduating this year. This time next year, I’ll be furiously lesson planning, prepping, and decorating for a class of my own. I’ll have a full-time job, no skipping class just because I’m tired. I’ll be in bed by 10 every night, up no later than 6 every morning. What in the world.

This is very exciting. Very terrifying. Very a lot of things. A lot to begin to fully comprehend. No more wine nights, no more talking till late hours of the night. No more being a kid, officially.

What, why, and how does one instantly become a big kid?

The beauty of curve

Check out this blog, run by my best friend. It’s a huge motivator on the hard days, the “chubby” days, the days when nothing looks quite right. It’s a great reminder of what is healthy and that healthy is the most beautiful thing out there, whatever healthy looks like on you. I’m not one for shameless promotion, but this one’s worth it.

When I say, ‘I love you,’ it’s not because I want you or because I can’t have you. It has nothing to do with me. I love what you are, what you do, how you try. I’ve seen your kindness and your strength. I’ve seen the best and the worst of you. And I understand with perfect clarity exactly what you are. You’re a heck of a person.

Spike (from BtVS)  (via thatkindofwoman)

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People do not seem to realise that their opinion of the world is also a confession of their character.

Ralph Waldo Emerson (via referenceforwriters)

carry-on-my-wayward-butt:

walkingmyhellhound:

If I’ve learned anything from video games, it is that when you meet enemies, it means that you’re going in the right direction.

that’s really inspiring

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Abortion seems to be the only medical procedure that people want to deny you based on how you got in that situation.

Drove drunk, got in an accident and need an organ transplant? No problem.

Messing around with a gun, accidentally shoot yourself in the leg and need surgery? Of course.

Smoke tobacco for most of your life and need treatment for lung cancer? Yep.

Climb a tree, fall out and break your leg? We’ll fix that right up.

Have sex and get pregnant when you don’t want to be? YOU GOT YOURSELF INTO THIS SITUATION AND YOU DESERVE NO MEDICAL HELP OR COMPASSION! THIS IS YOUR FAULT AND YOU WILL DEAL WITH THE CONSEQUENCES!

Worry About Your Own Uterus  (via metaphorically)

Pregnancy can occur from rape, anyone who says that pregnancy is the woman’s fault will get bashed in the face with a chair.

(via superlockedhogwartianinthetardis)

Never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.

Clementine Paddleford 

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Why Society Still Needs Feminism

Because to men, a key is a device to open something. For women, it’s a weapon we hold between our fingers when we’re walking alone at night.

Because the biggest insult for a guy is to be called a “pussy,” a “little bitch” or a “girl.” From here on out, being called a “pussy” is an effing badge of honor.

Because last month, my politics professor asked the class if women should have equal representation in the Supreme Court, and only three out of 42 people raised their hands.

Because rape jokes are still a thing.

Because despite being equally broke college kids, guys are still expected to pay for dates, drinks and flowers.

Because as a legit student group, Campus Fellowship does not allow women to lead anything involving men. Look, I know Eve was dumb about the whole apple and snake thing, but I think we can agree having a vagina does not directly impact your ability to lead a
college organization.

Because it’s assumed that if you are nice to a girl, she owes you sex — therefore, if she turns you down, she’s a bitch who’s put you in the “friend zone.” Sorry, bro, women are not machines you put kindness coins into until sex falls out.

Because only 29 percent of American women identify as feminist, and in the words of author Caitlin Moran, “What part of ‘liberation for women’ is not for you? Is it freedom to vote? The right not to be owned by the man you marry? The campaign for equal pay? Did all that good shit get on your nerves? Or were you just drunk at the time
of the survey?”

Because when people hear the term feminist, they honestly think of women burning bras. Dude, have you ever bought a bra? No one would burn them because they’re freaking
expensive.

Because Rush Limbaugh.

Because we now have a record number of women in the Senate … which is a measly 20 out of 100. Congrats, USA, we’ve gone up to 78th place for women’s political representation, still below China, Rwanda and Iraq.

Because recently I had a discussion with a couple of well-meaning Drake University guys, and they literally could not fathom how catcalling a woman walking down University Avenue is creepy and sexist.
Could. Not. Fathom.

Because on average, the tenured male professors at Drake make more than the tenured female professors.

Because more people on campus complain about chalked statistics regarding sexual assault than complain about the existence of sexual assault. Priorities? Have them.

Because 138 House Republicans voted against the Violence Against Women Act. All 138 felt it shouldn’t provide support for Native women, LGBT people or immigrant women. I’m kind of confused by this, because I thought LGBT people and women of color were also human beings.
Weird, right?

Because a girl was roofied last semester at a local campus bar, and I heard someone say they think she should have been more careful. Being drugged is her fault, not the fault of the person who put drugs in her drink?

Because Chris Brown beat Rihanna so badly she was hospitalized, yet he still has fans and bestselling songs and a tattoo of an abused woman on his neck.

Because out of 7 billion people on the planet, more than 1 billion women will be raped or beaten in their lifetimes. Women and girls have their clitorises cut out, acid thrown on them and broken bottles shoved up them as an act of war. Every second of every day. Every corner of the Earth.

Because the other day, another friend of mine told me she was raped, and I can no longer count on both my hands the number of friends who have told me they’ve been sexually assaulted. Words can’t express how scared I am that I’m getting used to this.

Because a brief survey of reality will tell you that we do not live in a world that values all people equally and that sucks in real, very scary ways. Because you know we live in a sexist world when an awesome thing with the name “feminism” has a weird connotation. Because if I have kids someday, I want my son to be able to have emotions and play dress up, and I want my daughter to climb trees and care more about what’s in her head than what’s on it. Because I don’t want her to carry keys between her fingers at night to
protect herself.

Because feminism is for everybody, and this is your official invitation.

Caitlin O’Donnell, Drake University. (via on-another-note)

WHAT IF THE TSARNAEVS HAD BEEN GIANT COPPER ROBOTS?

benkling:

A response to WHAT IF THE TSARNAEVS HAD BEEN THE “BOSTON SHOOTERS”?

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Here’s a little mental experiment. Imagine, for a moment, that the Tsarnaev brothers, instead of packing a couple of pressure cookers loaded with nails and explosives into their backpacks a week ago Monday, were giant robots made out of copper. What would have been different?

Well, for one thing, the brothers would probably have killed a lot more than three people at the marathon. The methods they employed were designed to allow them to elude capture, but if they were giant copper robots instead of people, this might have been less of a concern for them. If the Tsarnaevs were skyscraping automatons with machine guns built into their arms, they might easily have killed hundreds of spectators and runners and leveled dozens of buildings before military helicopters were sent to hit them with rockets or drop a giant net on top of them.

The second thing that would have been different is the initial public reaction.

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wiccanthropy:

whattheshea:

wiccanthropy:

the best essay

I spent my entire high school and college careers trying to sneak my favorite curses and curse-phrases into as many analytical essays as possible. No exact count, unfortunately, but my favorite will never not be the time in my 12th grade Contemporary Fiction class when I wrote that one of Pynchon’s characters “got totally dicked over, for lack of a better term.”
My favorite teacher ever and the grading hand at the time, Mr. Miley, wrote “Is there really no better term, Andrea?” in the margins but gave me an A anyway.

You have my permission to keep this post on your blog. Everyone who isn’t you must delete this post because they are not as great as you are. 

wiccanthropy:

whattheshea:

wiccanthropy:

the best essay

I spent my entire high school and college careers trying to sneak my favorite curses and curse-phrases into as many analytical essays as possible. No exact count, unfortunately, but my favorite will never not be the time in my 12th grade Contemporary Fiction class when I wrote that one of Pynchon’s characters “got totally dicked over, for lack of a better term.”

My favorite teacher ever and the grading hand at the time, Mr. Miley, wrote “Is there really no better term, Andrea?” in the margins but gave me an A anyway.

You have my permission to keep this post on your blog. Everyone who isn’t you must delete this post because they are not as great as you are. 

(Source: foxyplaydate)